My friend Simon has just asked me to be his 'Bestman'!
I mean a Female BESTMAN or whatever you call it!!!! Simon has refused to call it Grooms Honour Attendant because the word 'Attendant' reminds him of a toilet attendant. Between us we've come up with names- 'Best Woman', 'Best Friend' etc. I'm sure there'll be more (If I know Simon, some not so polite!!!)
I remember back in the day I used to tease Stephen about one day being his Bestman, but I never EVER thought it could seriously happen. (Actually I didn't even attend Stephen's wedding, we had a falling out a few months before, and never really patched things up... long story! )
Simon's been hinting about this for the last few weeks! Telling me about the colour scheme and nagging me about what I'm wearing to the wedding; asking me to help him decide on his suit; sending me links to stag party organisers sites, asking me outright to organise his stag do etc. I guess I should have picked up on it but I'm really slow at these things. Today he sent me a formal request and I was utterly flabbergasted!!! At first I thought, 'It's a bit early for an April Fools Day joke' and expected him to come out with a "Hahaha gotcha!!!"
But no! He really IS serious!
I checked to see whether fiancee Sharon is ok with this. She is!
So I've agreed to do it and was ok....
...until I learnt what a bestman's duties are including the all important best man's speech. This is apparently the measure of how good a wedding is! (no pressure!!! GASP!!!)
And there I was thinking that my job would be to organise stag night, keep the wedding rings safe, sign register, and take photos!
Fortunately the speech won't be that much of a problem. There are plenty of websites including http://www.bestmanspeech.com who for a fee could give me ideas. Here's one of the examples from their website.
Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen. For those of you that don't know me, my name is Kim and I’m Simon's best man. That’s right, I’m a woman. Now, according to Sharon, the reason I’m stood up here in the role of best man is because none of Simons' male friends could be trusted to look after the wedding rings and do this speech without swearing ….[pause]….. or mentioning the phrase ‘sheep lick’ – whatever that’s supposed to mean!
See? Nothing to worry about - I'll just copy and paste from their website!
But then there is the issue of what to wear! Should I wear a suit or a dress the same colour as Simon's suit? But he is wearing black. Hmm that won't do. I'd look like I'm at a funeral! Perhaps a trouser or skirt suit the same colour as the matron of honour - burgundy! I still haven't decided yet!
There's a mixed bag of reactions to the whole Female bestman thing. Some hail it as a welcome break from tradition. Others see it as an aknowledgement that these days it is not uncommon for people to have close friends of the opposite sex. Most of Simon's friends are female!
It felt kind of assuring to know that I won't be the first female best man. Although not sure how Sharon's West Indian relatives will react to this! One of the forums warned 'Expect the photographer, the dj, the priest/rabbi/whatever, and grandma to give you some really confused and almost disgusted looks'
I hope it is nothing more than that!!!!
