Celebrating my last night in Paihia, New Zealand. At Pipi Patch, Beth and I are checking out and rating the talent. We are partial to Maoris. In walks a group of well built, very good looking Maori men. Hmm!
We stare so much that the guys come over to our table to chat. They are in Paihia for the weekend to celebrate their friend Troy's birthday. We ask whether they are rugby players because they are sooo BIG! Yup, as a matter of fact, they are. Ben, who is sitting next to me points out that " Him and him are in the 'All Blacks'"
Yeah right!
We move on to the next bar, and the guys follow us . We ignore them and do the thing that has brought us here , BOOGIE! Troy keeps 'bumping' into me on the dancefloor- I don't think anything of it! Music is a bit shite so move on to the Light House(referred to as the "shite" house, by the locals). On the way, we pick up some guys desperate to buy us drinks. Beth, who is 20, asks me whether it is okay to accept a drink from someone you don't fancy
"Yeah! Well I do it! He is the one who offered. It's not like you owe him or anything"
Great Kim! "Christian" guidance for the young ones!
My, for want of a better word, date, is 21 year old Dave, currently working on a building project in Paihia! I think he has been advised that in order to "pull" girls, you have to ply them them drinks! I'm a broke backpacker, so of course won't say no. Not to Smirnoff Ice! Conversation is not that great, so I'm looking over his shoulder scanning the club for more interesting people. Suddenly he says in an almost reverential tone, "That guy is in the All Blacks!". I turn around and see Troy and his posse entering the club. They spot me, now a familiar face and come over to say hi. Dave is shitting himself. Can't believe he is in the presence of an ALL BLACK! Personally, I find Gerry, who is part of the posse, more interesting than Troy so focus on him. He's played for the All Blacks too, but also internationally in England, Canada, Australia etc. He is now a PE teacher working in an Auckland inner city school. It took him 8 years to fit his University education around his career. He is quite a humble guy. About rugby playing he says
"I'm lucky. I can run fast and catch a ball. That's all"
Dave tries to stick it out - putting his arm around my shoulder - but soon gives up when he realises he is fighting a losing battle.
Troy is bored so wants to go back to the chalet. Gerry asks Beth and I whether we'd like to go back with them for a few "drinks". I think "Why not?" and before I know we're at their VERY NICE chalet. Once there, conversation starts disintegrating. Troy wants to see our "titties". Someone dims the lights and I realise that I am not there for just "drinks". What were you thinking Kim?
This whole 'Groupie' thing is not my scene!
Furthermore, I am a VIRGIN! Do I want to lose my virginity so carelessly to some rugby player on a one night stand? I know loads of girls would kill to have sex with these guys. They have perfect bodies, look good, rugby players...
But my virginity is important to me! I know it is old fashioned, but I REALLY am saving myself up for the guy who is worth giving it to! Someone who loves and respects me enough to marry me!
So there, I've said it, Sex only within the context of marriage! And boy are we going to have GREAT sex... To make up for lost time!
(Of course I MAY reconsider my position if caught up in a near death situation - like trapped on the top floor of a burning building with no hope of rescue. If there is a guy around...)
Not that I haven't had opportunities to lose my virginity. Sometimes I think in my case it is Divine intervention more than anything else. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is sooo very weak!
So with my whole body screaming STAY, I get up and mentally WILL my legs to start moving! I mutter that I am going to the bathroom, and then I am out the back door and AWAY!
It is not easy!
I've proved to myself that I can walk away from a, frankly speaking, very tempting situation. Willpower over physical attraction! A triumph!
I think of Joseph and Potiphar's wife. I've always assumed that she was an old hag after a quick shag with the cute head servant. But what if she was a hottie, and what if Joseph was seriously attracted to her, and the only response he could think of in this situation was to "Flee!"
I can apply this principle to every situation in my life! Instead of dwelling on Mr A, I can say no to my emotions and just walk away! Not a hard thing to do considering he has not even been in touch. If I took him off my travel blog email notification list or never called him again, he wouldn't notice!
Sorted!
Resist my physical urges, cut him off, and don't look back!
